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Turn problems into opportunities

“Every adversity carries with it the seed of an equivalent or greater benefit.” ~ Napoleon Hill
When we face a difficulty, what is our immediate reaction? Either we blame something or someone, we complain about it or we run away from the situation. “Why did this happen to me? What am I going to do now ?” Are we uttering sentences like these? This response is most natural. And lets us be the helpless victim of it.   
One foremost thing I depict many times is: Am I a victim? Or, Am I a master? Realize that I have a freedom. I have a choice. I can either wallow in misery and dwell on the negative aspects of situation or I can find the benefit of the lesson that the problem is offering. Don’t be ruled by circumstances, but rule over them. Be the master of self, not the victim.
There is always a flip side of the difficulty. What seems to be a problem is often not a problem at all. It may actually an opportunity. Try to make the benefit out of it. Firstly it looks like a tragedy, but actually,…

Five easiest ways to be happy

What makes us happy ?
We all want happiness. But why is it so hard to come by? Why do most of us spend entire life seeking for happiness but never realizing it?
I think it’s because we are looking in the wrong places. Most of us go looking to any other person or thing. When we try outside; we fail. It’s frail efforts that don’t lead us anywhere. We don’t reach the destination and finally goof in misery.
We change relationships, jobs, cars, houses, friends, etc. always thinking if I had that; I’d be happy. But when we get that thing it only brings temporary happiness. Then we start looking for the next happy high.
Some look to negative ways like smoking and alcohol to find happiness. We feel status and style in it. Actually we escape instead of facing reality in such ways. It’s nothing but a blunder only. We harm own self and lead self to death.   
I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to spend my entire life looking for happiness only to find it and have the buzz wear off, the relatio…

Happiness lies within

Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Abraham Lincoln
Down through the centuries men have sought to explain the meaning and the art of happiness. Millions upon millions of words have been written on the subject. Poets and priests, philosophers and scientists, teachers, preachers, and leaders of every age have sought to work out a simple formula for what Sir Philip Gibbs called “The eternal quest of mankind” -- a happy and contented life.
For in the end happiness is what all people want, regardless of the many ways they may seek it. To be happy is the ultimate goal of all ambition, all endeavor, all hopes and plans. “Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life, the whole aim and end of human existence.” declared Aristotle, supreme philosopher of the ancient world.
But what is happiness ? Clearly, it means vastly different things to different people. Since earliest times men have sought and found their happiness along amazingly divergent paths -- in wor…

Attitude of gratitude

“When we change the way we look at things, things we look at change.” ~ Wayne Dyre
Gratitude is an ingredient that turns lack into more than enough, sorrow into happiness and defeat into victory. If we want to create a more happy and fulfilled life, if we want to have an abundance on every level of life, the way is to feel blessed for whatever we have.
I personally realized three points that changed my state of mind from complaint to gratitude. (1) I could have more than I have, but what if I could have less than I have. (2) If I am not grateful now, when will I be? One who thinks I will be happy after having something, it’s an illusion. (3) One who is in lack can be fulfilled but one who always feels lack can’t be fulfilled.
Being grateful in the now is requisite. One does so is happy everywhere. Happy and abundant is he, who is deeply grateful by heart. In a real sense, gratitude is an attitude. Here are a few inspiring words for developing gratitude.
Be thankful that you don’t have e…

Break limits

An elephant can lift in excess of a ton of weight with just its trunk. Still an elephant is conditioned to stay in one place with a weak rope and a stake. Only a small rope tied to its front leg holds an elephant. No chains, no cages. It is obvious that the elephant can, at anytime, break away from its bonds but for some reason, it does not.
The reason is that, when the elephant is a baby and much smaller, it is tied to a strong chain and strong tree. The baby is weak but the chain and tree are strong. The baby is not used to being tied, so it keeps tugging and pulling the chain, in vain. A day comes when it realizes that all the tugging and pulling will not help and it gives up, thinking that it cannot break away from the bond. It stops and stands still.
And when the baby elephant becomes the mighty giant elephant, he is tied with a weak rope and a small stake. The elephant could with one tug, walk away free, but it goes nowhere because it has been conditioned to believe that it cannot…

Failure is a stepping stone

“My great concern is not whether you have failed, but whether you are content with your failure.” - Abraham Lincoln

Failure can either break us or make us. Those broken by failure are haunted by unpleasant memories. These memories are like shadows that lurk in front, behind, beside, beneath and above. It is also a cage that traps the mind, preventing it to entertain possibilities of freedom and success. They are convinced that they cannot do it; therefore, they will not try.

For those that failure could not break are those who became made “men.” Failure to them is not a ghost, but a friend who taught them well. It is also a stepping stone to wisdom. These men and women are convinced that true failure only happens when one gives up.

History has been kind to President Abraham Lincoln. He has been painted as probably the greatest president of the United States of America. It is the good thing that history also recorded his failures. It reflected his frail humanity but also showed his attitu…